This book explores the complexities of consensual nonmonogamy, or “polyamory,” as it relates to attachment theory and trauma. Jessica Fern offers a unique perspective on how open relationships can be healed from past hurts and improved by understanding our individual needs for security. Drawing on her own experiences in polyamorous relationships, Fern provides readers with practical advice for creating and maintaining healthy connections with multiple partners.
For who is this book for ?
This book is for anyone interested in consensual nonmonogamy and its effects on attachment theory and trauma. Jessica Fern offers a unique perspective on how open relationships can be healed from past hurts and improved by understanding our individual needs for security. Drawing on her own experiences in polyamorous relationships, Fern provides readers with practical advice for creating and maintaining healthy connections with multiple partners.
Pros :
- The author’s personal experiences offer valuable insight into the complexities of polyamory.
- The book provides practical advice for creating and maintaining healthy relationships with multiple partners.
- Fern raises important questions about how our past affects our present and future relationships.
Cons :
- The book is dense and may be difficult for some readers to follow.
- It can be triggering for people who have experienced trauma.
- Fern’s personal biases towards polyamory might alienate readers who do not share her views.
Learn more about the author
Jessica Fern is a psychotherapist who specializes in working with individuals and couples in open relationships. She has been practicing polyamory herself for over fifteen years, and has extensive experience helping people navigate the challenges of nonmonogamy.
Reader Reviews
“Polysecure is an excellent resource for anyone curious about polyamory and its potential effects on attachment style and overall mental health. Jessica Fern provides clear, concise information that is grounded in both personal experience and research. This book is a must-read for anyone considering or currently practicing consensual nonmonogamy.”
“Jessica Fern’s Polysecure is an extraordinarily insightful and comprehensive book on the dynamics of consensual nonmonogamy. It skillfully weaves together theory with rich personal narratives, offering a much-needed examination of this little understood topic from many angles. This book has something to offer everyone who is interested in or practicing polyamory – whether they are just starting out or have been navigating these waters for years.”
“Polysecure is an incredibly insightful book that delves into the complexities of non-monogamy. Jessica Fern provides a much needed voice to those who are seeking understanding and guidance in this often misunderstood lifestyle. This thought provoking read illuminates both the joys and challenges of ethical polyamory, and offers concrete advice for creating successful open relationships.”
“A much-needed examination of an often misunderstood form of love. This book is insightful, informative, and entertaining – a must read for anyone interested in opening their heart to multiple loves.”